Even with all the negative connotations of love, I remain a firm believer in it’s essence. What allows me to believe is the notion that love is abundant, and isn’t exclusive to a partner. Believe it or not, a significant other isn’t the only thing with the power to reveal the lover within you. This year, let us not reflect on the ways in which love has failed our hearts. I genuinely want everyone to recognize the ways in which we can put our love into practice; with hopes that it can go beyond this Sunday.
We’ve come a long way from the seventies love ballads helping me write this piece. It can be widely agreed that music and our means of expression are all a response to the time period. Back then, lovers were more grounded in how they felt without embarrassment, fear, and insecurity attached. But why exactly? Socially, the 70’s is noted as a decade of love, freedom, and experimentation. Families were more well knit and marriages were more love based. In my eyes, our society made innovations that would accommodate advancement but ultimately neglect our emotional being. Society’s changes would press everyone to become more narcissistic and success driven. These are qualities that make you great in this capitalistic nation but emotionally unavailable for things that should be held close to your heart.
And when thinking about love abundant seventies, where are we now? People have rejected the wonders of love because of what they associate it with now; heartbreak, confusion, vulnerability, and most significantly fear. Everyone is afraid to let people experience them because of the way times have changed and the media’s response. We want loyalty, understanding, patience, and effective communication out of people, but how can we give that if we’re so caught up in ourselves amidst being scared? How will we form healthy relationships if we associate the wrongs in them with gender? What good will come out of projecting your life’s voids onto everyone you meet? How can we expect to love when we haven’t spent enough time learning and loving our true selves?
It starts with you. You will develop that self love by paying attention to your feelings, tendencies, likes and dislikes. Understand your emotional needs and make ways to uplift yourself into your passions and abilities diligently; finding love and happiness in your growth and success. Spend time with the people you have meaningful relationships with; the warmth of genuine people is guaranteed to bring out the love in your heart. Most important to the separation from butchered love notions is to accept the beauty in everything happening around you. Don’t disregard your infatuation with your neighbor’s flowers or the scents that take you back to childhood. Allow the universe to inflict your heart positively everyday.